One problem I see in spiritual communities is that people expect others to work for them for free.
I can’t even count the number of times people ask me to give them a quick reading or check in or advice for free. That’s ridiculous.
Some have even said, “Could you check on this for me and then maybe I could even send you some money.”
Maybe you will send me some money? This is my profession, my business, the way I sustain myself and maybe you’ll even pay me?
We’ve got to stop this.
Some will see the way I’ve built my on-line presence and ask me questions and then invite me to, “come over” or “hang out.” What they really mean is that they want to “pick my brain” or have me do work for them for free.
Believe me, I am all about love and sharing and giving, but not when it comes to expensive investments that I’ve paid good money for. If I’ve spent my hard-earned dollars and time to build something, and many people make a profession out of it, why should I give it to you for free?
The worst part to me is when a “friend” never calls or reaches out until they need something. Believe, me, that gets noticed. If you desire the support or mentorship of a friend or community member, reach out with the intention to provide some value to them, to see how you could be of service, to make it worth their time. Otherwise, you’re just being self-absorbed, and possibly, plain old rude.
The way I see it, you should not trade with friends anymore, nor should you offer your services to your friends for free.
Just because your friend is a coach, psychic, or runs their own business, doesn’t mean that they should give you their time and services for free.
If you expect people to work for you for free and you reach out to your friends and ask for their services and time for free, then you are sending a message that you don’t value their time or work and you don’t think it’s worth money.
I invite you to look and see if you do that with your own services as well.
Do you offer to give someone your goods for free?
Do you trade with friends?
I no longer am willing to trade with people. Why? Because I value my business and my abilities and services and I am not about to send a message to spirit that my life’s purpose is not worth money.
Why shouldn’t we pay one another money for our services? Do we feel that we can’t afford to exchange money?
We must be vigilant about the way we talk about our money and our career or business and be really intentional with how we operate in the world.
If I work for you for free, then I send a message to the universe that I don’t feel my work requires an exchange of money, and therefore, I won’t receive money.
If I believe that we can’t afford to pay each other, then I send that message to the universe. I don’t have money to pay. Your services aren’t worth money. I’ll work for free.
More than that, if we are trading, we have to make certain that our exchange is equal and even. This can lead to ruffled feathers in our relationships, as this requires clear communication and deeply knowing the value of your own work.
The reason many business owners don’t make the kind of money they want is because they don’t value their service or product enough and they give away their time for free.
I raised my prices, quit doing trades and stopped giving free readings to friends or my community at large.
The result? I receive new clients all the time, I am regularly booked full with my appointments and I make more money through my business than I ever have in the past.
You see, many of the people I read for, especially women, have an issue of worth at their core. This impacts whether or not they’ll receive a relationship and it determines how much money they make.
Once we really heal our core wounds around not feeling that we are good enough or that we deserve what we want, we can begin to receive that which we deserve.
You deserve a healthy relationship.
You deserve an abundant bank account.
You have to believe that, act accordingly, ask for what you want and be willing to receive it. IT means you have to say no to people and give up trying to get them to like you.
If you give your services away for free, undercharge, and trade with friends, you are saying you don’t need money. So, then, you won’t have money.
It takes boundaries, ending people pleasing and it takes feeling uncomfortable saying to friends, “Yes, I am available to you, here is the link to book a session.”
That is hard and uncomfortable, but the fact is business is not about people pleasing or devaluing who we are.
Business is about self-growth and self-value.
To be successful in business, you have to believe in what you have to offer and you have to be willing to realize that your time is the most valuable thing you can offer someone.
Then, you have to charge like that’s true.
Once you really believe, then you’ll receive and achieve what you desire.
If you’d like to work on your receiving space and managing your boundaries, book a session, or download my FREE Report up above and your bonus meditations. You’ll move out what doesn’t serve, reclaim your power and replenish your energy. This increases your capacity to have.
To your having,