Woman in Red

If we are sensitive beings, as many of us are, we require some solitude to reflect. Highly sensitive people, introverts, those desiring to connect more deeply with self, will naturally seek solitude.

How do we know when we are seeking solitude vs. when we are isolating ourselves?

Solitude happens when we make a conscious choice to connect more deeply with ourself. We seek alone time. We wind down our energy.

Isolation is a defense. When we feel overwhelmed, or too extended, and we’re coming from a defensive place, that’s isolation.

On the spiritual path, it will be necessary to have solitude. The key is to make sure that it’s a conscious choice for self-connection, and not a defense mechanism to isolate.

Sometimes, people who fear living in an open-hearted space, will shut down. Anytime we’re opening, connecting, delving deeper into intimacy and extending ourselves, it’s natural for fear to come up.

It’s important that we do the self-reflection required and really be honest with ourselves about why we’re choosing what we’re choosing. 

Here are some questions to ask yourself to determine whether or not you’re in defense and isolation mode, or you’re simply desiring solitude.

  • Are you blaming another person?
  • Do you feel defensive? 
  • Are you afraid of something?
  • Do you feel lighter or heavier? (Lightness leads us to our truth, heaviness is a lie.)

Being alone and enjoying silence is one thing. Working hard to build up a defense and keep ourselves alone and contracted, is another.

Be sure that you’re doing your inner work to be real and honest with yourself. Life is about growing, and to do so, we must look at why we choose what we do.

Now, it’s your turn. I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment below and share what you do when you’re in solace. What feeds your soul? What activities or restful things do you partake in when you’re filling your cup?

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To your growth,

XO

Rachel Claire