Childhood

The 3 Questions You Must Ask In Relationship to Know What You Value and What You Want

Dearly Beloved, If there’s one job we have in relationship, it’s to clearly communicate our needs. Then, it’s up to the other person whether or not they’ll meet them. The problem is that we have to unravel the past conditioning we’ve inherited.  We’re trained to not really show up, to not put our needs on the…

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The Top Two Things Women Must Do to Heal & Attract a Healthy Relationship

It can be hard to voice our needs once we are in relationship. We fear that we may lose the other person, or, that we’ll be judged. We’d rather die than have people not like us, or come off as needy. The fact is, many of us grew up in homes where we tried to please…

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What Makes a Relationship a Relationship?

In follow-up to my post about narcissists called, The Problem with Being Swept off Your Feet” I want to distinguish the difference between a narcissist we can be in relationship with, and one we can’t, and what it really means to be in relationship. You see, we are all narcissists. In fact, it is said…

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The Problem with Being Swept Off Your Feet

My therapist sat next to me on her office couch, comforting me in my tears. Then, she asked a question that no one had ever asked me before. “What was it like growing up without a father? What was it like when he left, how did you feel?” I sobbed deep throbbing pulses from some…

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